Teaching Compliments to Build Empathy - Social Emotional Workshop

Teaching Compliments to Build Empathy

By Laura Driscoll | Group Counseling

Jan 07
Teaching students to give and accept compliments.

This winter focus on giving and receiving compliments. Genuine compliments can be a great way to build a positive classroom culture. When students learn how to give and accept compliments, they are also building empathy. Teaching compliments is an easy way to build a positive community.

Giving Compliments

Start by defining what a compliment is.

A compliment is something nice we say to someone else.

Try to steer students away from compliments about physical appearance and give them some guidelines so they can check theirs. I like them to check that their compliments are true, specific, and positive

Try these activities to help students give better compliments:

  • Sort good and not so good compliments.
  • Brainstorm compliments you could give.
  • Give compliments to a fictional character.
  • Reflect on how compliments make others feel.

Accepting Compliments

Often students struggle to accept compliments. I know that I do too! We often deflect compliments,

Oh, it was nothing. 

or reject reject compliments.

You should get your eyes checked if you think my project is good.
teaching students to learn to accept compliments by recognizing not so great responses.

It can help students to know these are common responses. Compliments can make us feel awkward. We can struggle to believe the compliment is true. When a student doesn't accept a compliment, teach students to call each other out by saying "Accept, don't deflect or reject". 🙂

Have students reflect on how it feels when someone deflects or rejects your compliment. This can really help students see the importance of accepting compliments.

To learn how to accept compliments, I have students:

  • Rewrite not so great responses.
  • Sort great and not so great responses. 
  • Use sentence stems until they are comfortable.
  • Remember that sometimes a simple thank you will do just fine.

Compliment Culture

Complimittens 

I love this activity in the winter! Students get a set of mittens and write a compliment to another student on it. You can then create a simple bulletin board with all the complimittens the students created.

Compliment Circle

Students sit on the floor in a circle with their legs outstretched. Students take a turn giving a compliment to someone else in the circle. When a student receives a compliment they sit criss-cross. This continues until all students have received a compliment. It is a great way to end morning meeting or an end of the day meeting.

Compliment Web

Students sit or stand in a circle. One student starts with a ball of string. They choose someone across the circle from them and give them a compliment. They pass the ball of string to that person, holding on to the end of the string. The next student does the same, but this time holds onto the string while unraveling enough to reach the next student. It may be helpful for the teacher to help with passing the string and improving compliments to match instruction.

teaching students to give compliments can build empathy and a positive classroom culture. Teach students how to give and accept compliments using engaging activities.

About the Author

Laura is a former school psychologist passionately trying to bring social-emotional learning to every student at every tier. Click here for hands-on resources for the classroom and counseling.

  • Percy says:

    I love this idea and I will definitely be trying later this month.

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